I'm no expert at children but I guess the way you teach them to use a spoon and fork is by practicing. We have been letting Ava play with her spoon while she eats ; she gets the concept but has had a hard time actually getting the food on the spoon. Well for dessert Daddy bought her some chocolate pudding and she really wanted to help. Since she gets a bath right after dinner I figured this was as good of time as any to practice with the spoon. She really had fun and besides the mess she did a really good job.